Discussion 2 to Ask the Patriarch 93
Actions have consequences.
by BadNeurons (screen name)
From the UCTAA Discussion board
Seems to me that the key to good parenting and turning a wild animal into a moral being does not really depend much on religion. My parents were agnostic and atheist (one each) and so god never really entered into it, but none of their three children has ever gone to jail, or has been in more trouble than a speeding ticket.
The trick, I think, is twofold:
- Teach your child that others exist. He is NOT the center of the universe.
- Teach your child that she must assume responsibility for her actions, and that actions have consequences. (Every junior psychologist will tell you that setting boundaries is crucial, whatever that might mean.)
The Golden Rule is useful, I imagine, especially after the kid gets to the point where he understands that other people have emotional states, too. (This isn't the case when they're little...yikes)
Admittedly, I have no idea how to teach children anything, having none myself and avoiding them where possible. (Lord of the Flies made a big impression on me.) But all of the worthwhile people I have met seem to share these two beliefs...I am not the center of existence, and what I do has consequences. If one can instill these two things, seems to me that all else follows.